Further Wonderings

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So….Last week I read an article on the devolution of conservatism in the U.S.  It was helpful to me in sorting out the recent history of the conservative movement in this country.  And it also helped me to think through further the relationship between the devolution of conservatism and the rise of right wing Christianity’s out of balance influence over the politics of our country.  Here’s the link:

 I Thought I Understood the American Right. Trump Proved Me Wrong.   

 While the article sited above does not exactly say it, the way I see it is that as conservatism as a political movement devolved into what it has become, Fundamentalism, Conservative Christianity, Right Wing Christianity evolved into what it is now.  The two movements are enmeshed almost like conjoined twins. One cannot really stand without the other.  As one goes, so does the other.  

My response to Trump’s “win” and all that has followed it has been to join the Resistance in the ways available to me.  So I have gotten involved in the group, Indivisible.  There are hundreds of us here in Boise involved.  The main strategy of the movement is to actively oppose much of Trump’s and the Republican Congress’s agenda.  That is done by making mass phone calls, sending mass emails, showing up in teams at the local offices of our MoC, town hall meetings, marches, etc.  The idea of it is based on the partially successful efforts of the Tea Party that formed in opposition to all things Obama.  So we present a constant questioning and protesting presence, just as the Tea Party has done.  However, we strive to be civil, which I don’t think the Tea Party ever cared much about.  I do find it a bit strange to be associated with an organization that models itself after the Tea Party.  It’s unsettling and somewhat unsatisfying, although I will stick with it until something else comes along.  This is where my further wonderings come in to play.  

The only thing I get about the far right religious efforts to insert itself into political goings on is the desire to offer something “spiritual” into the conversation.  Where they have gone with that is beyond the pale.  But I do believe that the earliest of motivations lay somewhere in that that idea.  The problem with all of that is that politics have been hijacked by conservative Christianity.  There is no other “spiritual” point of view that has any home or means of expression in today’s political discourse.  Almost all the political activity I have been involved in over the years and today has been devoid of any reference or fragrance of anything remotely “spiritual”.  Nothing beyond what can be seen and heard and smelled and held in the hand for us lefty progressive types.  

I believe that the way forward for all of us, if we are to survive as a democracy and not become a real life embodiment of “The Handmaids’ Tale”, is for the left and center to not just oppose, oppose, oppose.  That is necessary and I will continue doing it.  It is also to embrace and present an alternative narrative that may appeal to people not attracted to the alt-right/conservative Christian enabled vision of our country but perhaps don’t know where to put their loyalties in our present enviornment.  What that means is that the  loyal opposition needs to figure out a way to present a vision that includes hope and the possibility of a political ideology that has room for God or an acknowledgement that we are more than just our intellects or something beyond our lefty way of being “reasonable”. The Christian Left is an organization that puts forward a very different idea about what Christianity is all about and how it might be useful in these times. Here is a link that is actually from the Huffington Post but I believe written by the group, the Christian Left:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/four-reasons-why-the-resistance-needs-the-christian_us_5900f715e4b06feec8ac92ee

It is not so much that the writers are offering to insert left leaning Christianity into left leaning politics. It is more that they are offering help to a floundering progressive movement. 

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Why the Confederate Banner Must Come Down

That's it for now.  Let's create a world worth living in.

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More this, that and the other thing

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Seems that my little world has changed since Steve and I returned from a trip back East.  Steve had his last day of work on March 27 and we left for Cape Cod on April 1.  We returned on April 16 and since then life has felt like it is screaming down a 12 lane highway at about 100 mph.  Just stuff, you know, but lots of it.  Then we both got sick for several days and here I am.  I finally feel ready to reflect on life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness a little bit.

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In the meantime we have Ferguson, Baltimore and God only knows what else.  Oh yeah, nut cakes yelling about how Obama is going to invade Texas or some damn crazy thing.  Steve and I just watched the movie "Selma" last night.  I thought it was very well done.  But I couldn't help thinking that we have gotten so short a way down the road to freedom and equality in this country.  The violence and mayhem visited upon the people who walked across that bridge 50 years ago is still going on.  Never stopped.  As much as we would all like to believe that things are better, they are not.  The pieces have just moved around on the game board.  Some of our police forces around the country have themselves caught in a big mess, fueled by racism, fear,  I don't know what all, that has led to a black citizens being shot dead.  As a person who has benefited from institutionalized racism, one of the things I can do about it is write about it here and show up where I can.  I intend to do that until I can't do it anymore.

I also just watched a PBS show on Kent State called "The end of the 60's". It made me realize that the  the simpleton mindset that developed during the Nixon era of "the folks who dissent are not real Americans" has morphed into something much more insidious.  It's this faction of the Republican Party that has become a cult of insurgents.  What used to be considered kind of far out cuckoo thinking has now become mainstream Republican party conversation.  Actual elected people are spouting utter nonsense like "Obama is going to invade Texas". Steve had a teacher in high school who was a famous John Bircher type, who at the time was correctly thought of as being cuckoo.  Well now that cuckoo lady would be welcomed with open arms into the bosom of the Republican Party.  I'm telling you, there is something festering in the Republican Party that allows this kind of insurgent mentality to emerge.  I just read an article by one of my favorite journalists, Leonard Pitts. I have enclosed a link to his article because he says exactly what I mean. The link is to an earlier article and there was  follow up article into today's Idaho Statesman.  Thank you, Leonard Pitts for articulating so well what I have been thinking on for a long time.

 Leonard Pitts Jr.: 20 years after Oklahoma bombing, hatred still out there 

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